I’m nothing even close to Italian, but I like the sound of mi papa. Mi papa – my dad. I love him so much, I simply have to say why. Also,
I’ve spent a good part of my life not appreciating him the way I do today. This
is sad, but the reality.
Mi papa’s picture can
be seen in the dictionary under “good man.” I remember papa taking the four of us on camping vacations all over the
country, in our van-conversion (converted by him, of course). Strong, totally smart
- brilliant, as my mom says - and competent, he knows how to do everything from
fixing a stalled car engine to making full-course bacon-and-egg breakfasts on a
Coleman stove. I remember when our camper stopped dead in the middle of “the
longest bridge in the country,” a 10-or-20-mile monstrosity we were traversing in
some distant state I can’t remember. I was scared and crying, but as usual, my
dad found a way to get us going again. As long as my dad was there, I always knew
we would be alright.
Papa is level-headed
and a good model for slowing down in the midst of a problem to reason it out. I
took it for granted how reassured I felt when he didn’t panic about stuff.
Steady, quiet, modest, moral, responsible – these are the things I see in my
dad as I try to be them myself these days. Consistent and always there for us
as I grew up, I relied on his presence and comforting assurance. I remember
when I had the measles – or was it the mumps? Down-and-out on the couch in the porch,
I felt awful. But papa was working in
the yard close by. I could hear the lawnmower and smell the cut grass. And even
though I was sick, I felt better just knowing he was there, nearby.
It was my dad who took us out sailing on boats he himself
built, and his skillful hand that kept us flying over the waves of Seneca and Canandaigua Lake. He it was who took us to the golf
course after dark in the summer to pluck night-crawlers off the watered grass
for fishing bait the next day. It was my dad who took us tobogganing in the
nearby hills in the wintertime. Who helped construct a five-foot-long paper
mache model of a grasshopper, in all its scientific detail, for a school
project. And Dad who painted and refinished every single wall and floor inside
our house, sanded and painted the outside, and laid new shingles on the roof. He
who installed our backyard above-ground pool, while letting the neighborhood
boys help with this important, grown-up construction project. He planted tomatoes,
grilled hamburgers, explained math problems, supported us working as a
mechanical engineer for Bausch & Lomb for over 20 years. And these are only
some of the things I remember from
the oblivious haze of being a kid.
It wasn’t always easy growing up with papa – he was loving, but got angry and yelled too. I learned to be
afraid of him sometimes. Why did I let the bad stuff overshadow the good in mi papa for so long? I know a big part
of the answer: me and my “issues.” Seems as though I’ve had those since almost
my birth. They stressed me and caused so much rushing around looking for
approval that I never realized mi papa
did love me the whole time. In his special, perfectly papa way.
Mi papa, I love
you too.
A mighty renaissance man in the purest form is he. I love you Harry!
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